retiring the role you played in your family of origin: on individuation and becoming 🩸
in sick environments, someone has to be sacrificed. it is either you, or them.
Until a woman
individuates herself
from her family of origin,
she will
unconsciously subject herself
to continue playing
out the same role she played
within her family.
If there was abuse
present in her family,
individuation becomes
absolutely essential
in order for her to become her
own unique individual
and no longer
feel stuck in the same
soul sickness she has probably
felt her entire life.
Families are ecosystems.
When there is addiction, abuse, and denial present, this impacts the woman’s self concept on the deepest most subtle layers, as in order to belong and stay connected she must deny her True Self and regress back into the childlike state.
The ecosystem that her inner child deeply wants to belong to, is detrimental to the evolution of her Soul and the realization of Self.
As children growing up in dysfunctional, abusive cult like systems, we learn to deny the truth of who we are - the intelligence of our animal bodies - in order to survive.
We shut down our voices, turn off our intuition, and dismiss the language of our inner world - because to step into reality would be too painful to come to terms with. The reality that the people we love and deeply want to belong to are in fact sick. And by associating with them, we too have become sick.
For the woman to preserve her Soul and
become who she is truly meant to be,
she must uproot herself from the diseased
ecosystem of her family and root herself into healther soil. Soil that feeds her with beauty, real intimacy, connection, love, and nourishment.
This usually takes her coming to terms with and grieving how malnourished she has felt for a very long time.
The awakened woman must
do the brave thing.
She must dare to turn her back on the well that poisoned and diseased her Soul, and trust that her intuition will guide her to her
true nourishment.
In time, she will come to understand
that the sorrow of leaving
does not compare with the self betrayal
of staying. Staying in denial would be a slow burn suicide.