retiring the role you played in your family of origin: on individuation and becoming 🩸

in sick environments, someone has to be sacrificed. it is either you, or them.

Until a woman

individuates herself

from her family of origin,

she will

unconsciously subject herself

to continue playing

out the same role she played

within her family.

If there was abuse

present in her family,

individuation becomes

absolutely essential

in order for her to become her

own unique individual

and no longer

feel stuck in the same

soul sickness she has probably

felt her entire life.

Families are ecosystems.

When there is addiction, abuse, and denial present, this impacts the woman’s self concept on the deepest most subtle layers, as in order to belong and stay connected she must deny her True Self and regress back into the childlike state.

The ecosystem that her inner child deeply wants to belong to, is detrimental to the evolution of her Soul and the realization of Self.

As children growing up in dysfunctional, abusive cult like systems, we learn to deny the truth of who we are - the intelligence of our animal bodies - in order to survive.

We shut down our voices, turn off our intuition, and dismiss the language of our inner world - because to step into reality would be too painful to come to terms with. The reality that the people we love and deeply want to belong to are in fact sick. And by associating with them, we too have become sick.

For the woman to preserve her Soul and

become who she is truly meant to be,

she must uproot herself from the diseased

ecosystem of her family and root herself into healther soil. Soil that feeds her with beauty, real intimacy, connection, love, and nourishment.

This usually takes her coming to terms with and grieving how malnourished she has felt for a very long time.

The awakened woman must

do the brave thing.

She must dare to turn her back on the well that poisoned and diseased her Soul, and trust that her intuition will guide her to her

true nourishment.

In time, she will come to understand

that the sorrow of leaving

does not compare with the self betrayal

of staying. Staying in denial would be a slow burn suicide.